We sometimes get asked if we are planning on adopting. My answer is always the same: no. I have nothing against it, it's just not for me.
My sister is going through some things with her youngest and it again highlighted how comfortable I am with not adopting. I think my niece is a great blessing to my sister and our family and I certainly don't discount how wonderful adoption can be, but I don't believe it's for everyone. I firmly believe my sister is a stronger woman than I. I don't think I could go through the emotions required for adoption. I live in a fragile emotional state so often anyway, I don't think I could deal with the inevitable heartbreak and change in situation from day to day. I like the stability in knowing where things are with our family. I like to think that I'm mature enough to realize that I couldn't go through the ups and downs and the waiting.
People usually give me the "sympathetic groan" when they find out Sammy's an only and that we have no plans to adopt. I wish they wouldn't. I wish I could adequately convey I am at peace knowing my family is complete.